How To Be Your Own Boss – The Non-Sugar Coated Super Success Truth
Being your own boss is a beautiful thing. It throws your life in chaos and tests you as a man down to the core. You will muddle through darkness, alone, in search of something that is beyond your wildest expectations. Perhaps the greatest discovery you will encounter along the way is: Freedom.
It is indescribable, but to obtain it, isn’t easy. In fact, it’s damn near impossible for most men to grasp ahold of.
The truth is, most men today are terrified to act as if they had no limits to their ability. When opportunity knocks and presents itself, answering the challenge and taking the call invites fear in the form of risk. It forces you to make sacrifices earlier on in life, and makes you accept the fact that this isn’t going to be as painless as every guru in the past has led you to believe.
Understand that there is no such thing as work, life, balance. There’s only work, life, choices!
If you want to know how to be your own boss, I will gladly tell you without sugar coating it. But first and foremost, there are no grand secrets on how to do this. You can spend a lifetime in search of keys to open the doors of super success. Yet, the only key out there that can unlock and open the door is well, you.
You can believe that “luck” plays a role in the success of others, and I will tell you with complete confidence, that’s just not the case. You certainly won’t find those types of excuses below, because all of them are bullshit and I won’t accept any of them! All of the things you think matter, truly don’t.
In reality, there is nothing hold you from back from reaching your greatest self, except for three letter word, you. It’s a tough pill to swallow for most.
Welcome to a unique kind of hell.
1. It’s full time or failure
You must be willing to commit to yourself that you will never work for someone else again. It’s not an easy thing to do. In fact, it scares the hell out of most people. In a way, most give up their freedom in exchange for a false sense of security. I’m talking about a 9 to 5. Most call it job security or even a steady paycheck. In reality, your employer could tank tomorrow. They could introduce a massive cut back or lay off. Or perhaps your company gets bought out by a bigger business that decides to come on in and trim away all the fat: a.k.a. you.
Remember being your own boss is not a part-time job. It’s not like you can just sit by the beach all day and relax like they tell you and all of those damn business books. There are no workweeks in which you will put in only a few hours. If you’re truly serious about being your own boss, you will commit 100%. In reality, things like vacations, holidays, and birthdays are for poor people. When you say that to most people they act like your some kind of monster. Truthfully they don’t understand what kind of obsession high-performance businessman have for what they do. It’s completely foreign to them.
Understand that there is no such thing as job security in this world!
2. Jump without a parachute
You must be willing to overcome fear. That means eliminating all your backup plans. In order to be your own boss, there must be no parachute. You will be seen as crazy, bizarre and perhaps even foolish by those around you. And that’s perfectly fine.
When you first start, you will feel incredibly weird straying from the social norm. Back when I first started I distinctively remember walking into a parking garage on a weekday that was virtually empty. The only car parked in there was mine. In that moment, the thought of doing something most people don’t do in life hit me right in the face.
In reality, you can’t let the advice of others who have never done it for themselves, determine where you are going in life. Let’s face it nine out of 10 times the people around you have never experienced any level of super success whether in life or business. They simply have done what everyone in every generation before them has done: Accept mediocrity. Most of your parents weren’t world champion Olympians, athlete or high performance people.
3. No approval nor acceptance
You don’t need your parents, your friends or your peer’s approval to start a business. You don’t need their feedback or even their honest opinions. Truthfully all of it is absolute rubbish! You wouldn’t take advice on climbing Mount Everest from a cousin who works at a tire shop would you? If you did, you’d be dead before you even got half way up the mountain.
4. Lead your dream team by example
Build your dream team. Hire the right people and don’t be afraid to investigate them. In the same regard, you must trust and believe people will do the right thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re the CEO of Fortune 500 company or a small time blogger who’s only looking to hire a small team of writers. The truth is you must be willing to delegate and allow those around you to grow with you. It takes a strong leader to keep things on track and push forward the right direction.
Even when you make plans God will laugh and they will fail. You’ll have to adapt along with your team. Your employees will follow your lead and you will set the example. If you are not motivated, you can be assured neither will the rest of your team.
5. Goals or it’s gone
It takes sacrifice. A tremendous amount of sacrifice. It means dropping anything and everything that isn’t a part of your goals, completely out of your life. It’s far easier said than done. That means no more Facebook. No more twitter, sports bars, football games, Netflix and so on. All those old friends that you hang out with, even the ones that don’t drag you down, will eventually be removed from your life and replaced by mentors. It doesn’t matter what your past relationship is with them; if they are not a part of your goals that have no part in your life. Most people can’t accept that. They are afraid of being alone. Truthfully, being a high-performance person does, in fact, make you a lone wolf. You’ve got to be okay steering the ship alone.
Being your own boss is all about working late nights and early mornings. Most of which you spend in the office all by yourself. You will stop remembering what day it is and start thinking in terms of what needs to get done. You won’t have any time left to spend on things that truly don’t matter.
This why having mentors by your side is so critical. Without them, you have absolutely no one to turn to other than yourself. There will be times when you need advice, and honestly the only place you find it is either through your mentor or failing firsthand. You must surround yourself with high-performance people. If you hang out with friends at the sports bar and drink beer every night, rest assured you’ll be in that bar stool for the rest of your life.
6. Patience and focus
You must be patient. Stop seeking instant gratification all the time. You don’t build a million-dollar business overnight. You don’t become a high-performance businessman overnight. You don’t become the best nor top salesman overnight either. It takes time. It requires plenty of commitment. Don’t think for one second that means sitting on your lazy, miserable bum will magically turn your dreams to realities.
You will experience failure at some point and it happen over and over again. It will challenge you all the way down to the core. But let’s face it, being your own boss means learning from your own mistakes. It means understanding them and moving forward at every turn in the road. Unfortunately, most men can’t do that. Failure haunts them it and seduces them to throw in the towel early at every single step of the way.
7. Pay yourself
Pay yourself and your people first. Don’t sink it all back into the business. You don’t want to be 80 years old ready to sell and come to the realization that the market isn’t willing to buy. Just like that all of your dreams of cashing out the end vanish. If you had hoped to sell for millions, you might just find yourself with a buyer who is only willing to pay hundreds of thousands.
8. Negotiation is the grease to a wheel that keeps it moving
You’ve got to know how to negotiate. You’ve got to know how to deal with people. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the form of customer service with a disgruntled customer or with an employee on your dream team who demands a higher salary.
Perhaps it’s with the bank over a financial deal or with a dream client who is just not quite ready to make a sale. In any event, negotiation is at the heart of it all.
9. You are all you need
If you want to be your own boss you don’t need a college degree, you don’t need a Harvard MBA, nor do you don’t need to read thousands and thousands of books. You don’t need to listen to hours and hours of podcasts. All of it truthfully it doesn’t mean jack shit.
The only thing that you need is a willingness to take action. That’s it. Every question you have right now will eventually be answered along the way. If you aren’t prepared to deal with failure and learn from your mistakes, being your own boss isn’t for you!
Beyond popular belief, education is not a step towards success. And there’s a good reason for that. These things doesn’t equate to taking action. You could spend an entire lifetime reading libraries of business books but if you never get started in actually running a business, you will have accomplished absolutely nothing.
You will be the captain of your own ship. You will be held responsible for everything that happens to you in life and business. You will have to hold other accountable. There are no excuses. There is no blame to place on anyone other than yourself.
The number one excuse most people make when starting a business is proclaiming they cannot find any funding or financing. The statement is complete and absolute bullshit. Most men don’t even pick up the phone to make a single call to one bank.
Some give up after the second. Very, very few are willing to call 100 and 100 more in order to get what they want. Truthfully, it doesn’t matter how brilliant or stupid your idea is. There is a doofus out there somewhere who is willing to invest in it.
But it doesn’t just extend financing, most people who fail in business have excuses that are all over the place. If they had just stuck with it and put in a complete and total effort, their story would’ve been completely different. Laziness is truly the opium for the poor man. Most men are absolutely addicted to it. Their original motivation crumbles away when they are put to the real test in the real world.
While it’s best to save up at least six months of living expenses, it’s certainly not a requirement to get started today. If you’re starting out absolutely broke, it’s actually a great thing. Let’s face it there only two options: success or starving. Truthfully that divide in the road makes beasts and demons out of men.
In reality, all you really need is a notebook a pen and a cell phone. Most of you already have those three things. To say you don’t have this or that to get started with your business is only one gigantic excuse.
10. It’s a damn business
It’s not a side hustle. It’s not a hobby. It’s a damn business. And you must without question, have laser beam focus. You must demand that you are number one in your industry.
You must insist of yourself that you break every single record by any man before you. You are either the greatest, or you are nothing at all.
11. Goals beyond your wildest imaginations
Most men hope to make an extra 200 bucks a month, and that is being successful in their minds. They limit their goals to what they think is in close reach. But there’s a huge difference between striving for 200 bucks extra month and 200 million at the end of the year.
In reality, you must be willing to set your goals higher than the new could ever imagine in not one but two or three lifetimes and beyond.
Truthfully, most men who want to be their own boss fail because they don’t have goals or simply fail to set them high enough. If you aim for two hundred bucks a month, I can assure you will be satisfied at hundred and honestly, that’s probably all you’ll reach.
If you if you would only set your goals to 200 million, there’s a good chance you could come in at 50 or even 100 million when it’s all said and done. In the beginning, you may view that is unrealistic and entirely impossible, but when you believe those goals are a reality, you can be damn sure you will do everything to get as close to them as possible. And most of the time, you do.
12. Take control
You must be willing to take control. Everything in your past has no bearing on your future. It doesn’t matter where you were born, what your family was like, or even how your parents raised you.
It doesn’t matter if your dirt poor or were abused all your life. Your past is just that, your past. In the business world, you will be challenged constantly.
The super successful men of this world know how to deal with those sorts of problems and move forward. Remember tough times don’t last tough men do. In other words, get your emotional and financial bank account life in order.
13. Take action
You must be willing to turn your ideas into actionable steps toward your goals. If there is one hurdle in business that trips virtually everyone, it’s taking action. Most refuse to do it, and not just once but on a daily basis.
You have to understand running a business means taking action not just a few times but millions and millions of times. It’s constant, hard work. All the bullshit you read about a work week that’s only a few hours is just that, bullshit.
A business is like a leech; it sucks up all your time. You can’t just ignore it. When you do competitors will come out of the woods like wolves and eat you alive.
Now, it easy to be lazy. I mean extremely easy. Hell, you can even be a fat cat with past successes and still succumb to laziness. You can’t just rest on your past.
14. Be never in doubt
Never share your self-doubts. The moment you do, you turn them into a reality. When you think of losing, you become a loser.
There’s a good reason why winners consistently win because winning is all think about. They will accept nothing less.
There will be times when you will be wrong, but you must never be in doubt! Trust your gut!
15. A passionate pursuit.
Now there are a lot of ways to be your own boss. You can either start or purchase an established business. The concept is simple. However, the fastest way to super success is through a series of transactions. That means buying smaller businesses, rounding them up into one company, and taking what you have created to market after you puffed it up like a fat hog.
For some of you, that route isn’t one you’ll want to take. When you start your own business, you have to understand it requires a lot of time when you’re starting from scratch. However, that’s not to say, that starting a brand-new company is a wrong way to approach being your own boss.
Regardless of what you choose there is one thing you must have. And that is passion. It’s like when you meet a new woman, and you can’t get enough of her. You want to see her all the time and let’s face it, you’re hooked on her love. When you find that type of feeling in business, you must go all in.
Now, I know a lot of guys who’ve started in some of the weirdest niches and industries on the planet. Most of these gentleman are not passionate from the start, and only see the dollar signs. After about 12 months in they get bored, they lose complete and total motivation.
They no longer have the drive to push forward, and the result is they quit. You see this happen all the time, especially on Internet.
When it comes to websites, most people don’t just make one. They make a handful. And when one doesn’t work as well is they wanted it to, they scrap everything and try something different. It’s not a strategy, it’s succumbing to lack passion and ultimately an excuse.
16. Investigate more.
Investigate more so that you can spend less. That doesn’t just mean the market, but it also means the people that you hire and do business with. While it’s important to do your homework, you need to be doing the right kind of homework. That doesn’t mean reading business books about how the market works. That means going out into the market and seeing how it works for yourself firsthand. No book in the world can tell you if your product will be successful. Ultimately the market will determine that, and the market changes every day. An idea that was hot last year could be a total disaster if rolled out this year.
The last thing you want is to find yourself jumping into an industry that has absolutely no market. And the easiest way to do that is to fail to do your research in the first place! It doesn’t matter how amazing you think the ideas you have are or how grand your business plans may be; the answer will ultimately only be discovered when you take action!
Speaking of business plans, you truly don’t need them. A lot of people think that you need a business plan in order to get financing, and let me tell you, that’s just not the case. When you do need one, you can ask your banker to show you one that was recently approved. Of course, they will want to black out the names and personal information.
One of the biggest misconceptions out there is that you need all these papers in order to prove your plan. In reality, all that’s required is enthusiasm. And let’s face it that comes from you. It doesn’t matter how good your business plan is, if you lack enthusiasm no one’s going to believe in it. You have to show people that you believe in what you’re doing. When you do, others will follow.
Now, I have seen the types of pitch decks that successful startups have used in order to get financing. Can you take a guess what’s in them? The answer is all the results of investigation! However, remember a pitch deck, like a business plan is nothing more than a wild ass guess!
17. Is it for you?
Being your own boss is not for everyone. It’s just not. Most men are too lazy undetermined lack focus. It doesn’t matter what their background is, where they came from, or how great their idea could be.
Let’s face it, living life by your own rules scares the hell out of most people. It’s fear. What is fear? False expectations appearing real. It’s what stops most benefit from taking action.
The moment they hit a speed bump in the road they panic. They aren’t willing to put in the time nor the sacrifices in order to reach their goals. Let’s face it, being your own boss requires those two things in abundance. You give and you get.
Most are not ready for the challenge. They put it off all the way until their death bed. And they sit back and wonder what if. The what if question, has been plaguing them their entire life. What if they had just taken action? What they just sacrificed a little more? What if they had not given into instant gratification so easily? Truthfully, there are a million what-ifs.
When you start a business, you don’t need to answer all of them. You just need to do it! In fact, you can enter an industry that you have absolutely no previous experience in. You can investigate it and leap forward if you see an opportunity. The problem is that most men are not willing to leap into darkness.
There’s a lot of unknowns out there and being your own boss presents you with all of them at once. Don’t be afraid take risks, because being your own boss means taking many of them.
You will scare yourself shitless on a daily basis. In reality, the bigger the risk we take, the larger the rewards we receive.
The Ultimate Mother’s Day Gift Buying Guide for 2021
When it comes to our moms, they’re the one person we should be thanking on the daily. From the time we are born to our eventual escape from the nest, moms are ever-present in our lives. But as is often the case, life gets in the way. That’s why Mother’s Day was invented.
This yearly recognition of the parent that birthed us is a great time to get in touch and let them know how much you love them. But don’t just leave it at your mom, you can also use the day to remind the mother of your own child or your significant other why they are so special to you.
But as guys, sometimes we struggle with words, so why not show how much these special women in our lives mean by buying them a gift. Whether she’s into beauty, fashion, cooking, or gardening, there’s a gift for every woman in your life, no matter their age. To help you choose something she’ll love, here are our picks for the best Mother’s Day gifts this year.
1. Nordgreen Philosopher
Danish designer Jakob Wagner has only been in the watch game since 2017 but has made an immediate impact with Nordgreen. The company delivers luxurious handmade timepieces that are not only elegant but environmentally friendly.
The Philosopher is one of Nordgreen’s most stylish creations yet. Enclosed within the stainless steel case is a Japanese quartz movement that comes with a fashionable mesh strap. This attractive wristwatch comes in a variety of colors (silver, rose gold, gunmetal, and gold) with a crisp, clean dial that radiates opulence.
2. Harber London Carry-All Macbook Folio
If your mom or partner has a Macbook there’s no better way to keep it safe than with this carry case from Harber London. Constructed using a single piece of leather, this premium product not only has room for her Macbook but also comes with two convenient pockets where she can store everything from charging cords and papers to stationary and magazines.
Available in several sizes accommodating all versions of Apple Macbooks, this minimally impressive sleeve is handcrafted in Spain using full grain vegetable tanned cowhide leather and a great way to keep her Mac safe and secure.
3. Siroo Diamond Eternity Flex Bangle
What woman doesn’t love jewelry? If you’re out to impress you can’t go wrong with one of these Diamond Eternity Flex Bangles from Siroo. The established business is run by third-generation diamond experts and brothers Avi, Girish, and Nitin, who combine their love of jewelry with expert knowledge to deliver stunning pieces.
This beautiful bangle uses a one-of-a-kind flexible mounting that allows it to sit comfortably on any wrist size. It contains a whopping 93 natural round brilliant cut diamonds (1.5ct) set in the 14kt bangle that comes in yellow, white, or rose gold. It’s a stunning bangle designed to look similar to an eternity ring and even comes with a lifetime warranty.
If 1.5ct isn’t enough, you can really up your game and splash out on a 2ct, 3ct, or 5ct bangle.
This is an incredibly elegant piece of jewelry sure to score you big brownie points this Mother’s Day.
4. Barebones Pruner & Sheath
If your mom is a bit of a green thumb then she’ll love this pruner and sheath set. The vintage-style Japanese design offers an aesthetically pleasing look that’s also functional for attacking all types of vegetation.
Made from highly durable steel that’s water and rust-resistant with stylish copper accents, these pruners have spring-loaded and dexterous handles and are ideal for indoor or outdoor gardening.
5. Baloo Satin Sleep Mask with Rose Quartz Stone
There’s nothing better than a good night’s sleep, something guaranteed with the Baloo Satin Sleep Mask with Rose Quartz Stone. This snug sleep mask not only blocks out any nearby light but also muffles sounds.
The sleep mask has a built-in pocket that holds a rose quartz stone over the third eye chakra, a point known to help with sleep regulation and stress release.
6. Saint Laurent Cat-Eye Tortoiseshell Sunglasses
Saint Laurent is known for its luxurious accessories, and these sunglasses fit the bill perfectly. The sleek cat-eye frames are fitted with dark-green lenses and come in fashionable tortoiseshell acetate.
Offering 100% UV protection and a smart carry case, these stylish sunnies match with any outfit.
7. Caraa Studio Bag
One of Caraa’s best-selling products, this cleverly designed bag acts as both a satchel and a backpack thanks to its changing crossbody straps. Coming in three sizes and two colors (black with either gold or gunmetal accents), the Cararr Studio Bag is waterproof and lined with antimicrobial, meaning you won’t have to worry about moisture gathering inside the bag or any nasty smells.
8. Le Labo Santal 33 Eau de Parfum
This clean, crisp fragrance from Le Labo needs no introduction. Widely admired by women around the world and highly praised by perfume experts, Santal 33 is inspired by the American West.
Although marketed as a unisex fragrance, this perfume evokes sensual images thanks to the concoction of cardamom, iris, violet, and ambrox, along with Australian sandalwood, papyrus, and cedarwood, creating a spicy, musky smell that’s hard to shake.
9. Common Projects Original Achilles Sneaker
When it comes to luxurious footwear it doesn’t get much better than these kicks from Common Projects. Made from Italian leather and known for its clean-cut look, the Achillies Sneaker is a shoe your mother (or partner) can wear with any outfit.
The gold foil-stamped factory code adds prestige to this high-quality sneaker. Available in white or grey, these minimalist sneakers are great for the woman on the go.
10. Bloomsybox Mixed Flower Subscription
What woman doesn’t love flowers? With the Mixed Flower Subscription from BloomsyBox, you’ll be able to treat your mum to a fresh bouquet every month. The flowers are handpicked from Rainforest Alliance Certified farms from around the world and come with a care card and flower food to keep the flowers alive as long as possible.
11. Cleverly Shower Steamers
So you’ve heard of bath bombs, but how about shower steamers? Simply place one of these niffty creations in the corner of your shower and breath in the relaxing odors they produce. Made from pure essential oils and natural identical fragrances, these Shower Steamers from Cleverly are also non-slip, safe for septic systems, vegan, and cruelty-free.
Coming in a great variety pack that contains the scents of lavender, menthol and eucalyptus, vanilla, watermelon, grapefruit, and peppermint, your mum or partner will never want to leave the shower.
12. Dyson Supersonic Hair Dryer
We know Dyson products are super expensive, but there’s a reason for that. They are, to put it simply, unbeatable when it comes to home appliances. The Supersonic Hair Dryer is the top-of-the-line hair dryer engineered to not only dry hair fast, but protect it from heat damage.
It comes with a range of attachments to suit different hair types, is lightweight and compact, and has a nine-foot cord so you’ll never have to worry about being confined to the bathroom. So fork out your hard-earned and treat that special lady in your life to something she’ll use on a regular basis.
13. Zoe Tang Terrarium Candle
If your mom isn’t much of a green thumb then this Terrarium Candle is just what she needs. These hand-poured vanilla-scented cactus and jasmine-scented poppy candles are intricately detailed and are great for plant lovers who don’t have the time to look after actual plants. With 30-35 hours of burn time, these cute candles are a great addition to the mantlepiece.
14. Samsung Galaxy Buds+ True Wireless Earbud Headphones
Apple might dominate the Earbud market, but Samsung is doing their best to take a slice of the pie with their Galaxy Buds+ True Wireless Earbud Headphones.
These compact earbuds deliver crisp sound and deep bass thanks to premium AKG technology. These earbuds deliver 22 hours of listening time, are splash resistant, and are compatible with virtual assistants like Bixby or Alex. Your mom can also hook up her Spotify account to these high-quality earbuds.
Reasonably priced and coming with a charging case, USB-C cable, and three pairs of ear tips and three pairs of wingtips, this speaker set has everything needed for a superior sound experience.
15. Dash Compact Air Fryer
The latest trend for foodies is the all-conquering air fryer. These wondrous inventions use AirCrisp technology (instead of oil) to fry food, making it healthier and tastier.
Dash’s take on the air fryer is a fun little number available in a range of modern colors that not only looks good but cooks a wide range of foods in quick time.
16. Lululemon Reversible Mat
This yoga mat from Lululemon is made from natural rubber and ideal for any type of environment, be it hot yoga in a studio or at home in the lounge.
The grippy top layer and antimicrobial treated rubber mean your mom will never have to worry about slipping while performing the Lotus Pose. It also comes in a range of funky colors to help her stand out from the usual lycra-wearing crowd.
17. Goop Wellness Box
Gwyneth Paltrow’s beauty and wellness empire has its critics, but there’s no denying the actor and entrepreneur has some great products on the market. Case in point this fantastic wellness giftset.
The box includes goop Perfect Attendance chews, UMA’s wellness oils, LivOn Labs Liposomal Vitamin C gel, Manuka honey from New Zealand, Cocoon Artisans tea, and a copy of The Beauty in Breaking.
Perfect for the woman who wants to take some time out and look after herself.
18. Lifepro Shiatsu Foot Massager
If she’s always complaining about sore feet, then problem solved with the Lifepro Shiatsu Foot Massager. The six massage rollers gentle caress each foot and target specific areas, while the heat also helps soothe her aching heels.
This portable device is lightweight, compact, and comes with a variety of different massage modes. Just plug in, turn on, and enjoy.
19. Kodiak Instant Camera
Mom’s love taking photos, but if yours is anything like mine, she struggles when it comes to converting these photos from her phone to the fridge. With the Kodiak Instant Camera, she’ll never have that problem again.
This unique camera lets you snap away and print pictures instantly, making sure the memories will never fade. There are seven picture modes available and several other options to help her take stunning photos she can share with the family pronto.
20. Sex And Vanity - Kevin Kwan
The man behind bestseller Crazy Rich Asians returns with his latest novel about a woman torn between two men. Set in Italy, Lucie Tang Churchill – the daughter of Chinese American parents – finds herself having to choose between two suitors – the man who fits best with her family or the one she is obsessed with (in a good way).
A great read with a compelling story sure to appeal to those who’ve ever had the dilemma of having to choose between two people.
21. Woody Creek Distillers Gin
Gin is the spirit of the moment, so treat your mom to a bottle of gin from Woody Creek Distillers. This Colorado boutique distillery’s Roaring Fork Gin is described as “Old-world gin meets new-world botanicals.” Delightful.
This modern expression is spicey on the palate with flavors of juniper, citrus, and lavender. If gin isn’t to her liking, Woody Creek also crafts exceptional bottles of rye whiskey, bourbon, and vodka.
22. Rimowa Essential Light Carry-On
Although not the cheapest item on this list, you get what you pay for with Rimowa. The luggage brand has been delivering the goods for over 120 years.
The Rimowa Essential Light Carry-On is the ideal size luggage for those short interstate trips. Weighing 30% less than the standard case, this durable and portable carry-on case has all the features of other Rimowa luggage options (TSA approved locks, mesh divider, multi-wheel system, telescopic handle, and five-year warranty) and comes in five glossy colors.
23. Final Stainless Steel Straw
For the sustainability-conscious mom, this neat collapsible steel straw means she can suck responsibly. Whether drinking cocktails on the beach, sipping on an iced coffee or using a water bottle while camping, this reusable straw from Final will do the job. Even better, it comes with a small carry case to keep it safe in her handbag.
24. Gravity Weighted Blanket
Sleep is important to all of us, so if she’s struggling to get a good night under the covers, she’ll appreciate this Weighted Blanket from Gravity. Made using super soft micro-fleece (exterior duvet cover) and cotton and fine-grade glass beads (interior weighted blanket), this cozy blanket is designed to improve sleep quality. It’ll also keep you nice and warm on those cold nights.
25. JBL Flip 5
This portable waterproof speaker is one of the best on the market. Not only does it provide 12 hours of continuous play and come in 14 wild colors, but the speaker is made from 100% recycled plastic. It’s also got a 4.8-star rating on Amazon from more than 34,000 reviews, which is pretty hard to ignore.
26. Smirly Cheese Board and Knife Set
What woman doesn’t like cheese and wine? While all you need is a cup of some sort to drink wine, you need a few more things when it comes to cheese. Enter the Smirly Cheese Board and Knife Set.
This package comes with a round table with five different sections to hold everything from cheese and meats to fruits and nuts. You also get four stainless steel knives, two ceramic sauce bowls, two white markers, two back slate labels, four small fours, one wine opener, and a cheeseboard guide to help you pair your cheese with the right wine.
A great gift for the woman who likes her cheese and wine, which to be honest, is every woman.
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The Art of Being Single in the Digital Age
Being single often comes with a stigma, but if you know how to do it right, being single can be one of the best times of your life. Being single doesn’t mean lonely and being in a relationship doesn’t mean happiness.
It’s so important to remember this when we live in a world where we scroll through Instagram every morning, evening, and any chance in between. PDA was bad enough in person but now we’re seeing it all over our home page.
A relationship is no longer official until you’ve posted pictures with your partner all over Instagram. This is slightly inconvenient when a breakup happens and you have to digitally detox any evidence, but majorly inconvenient for singles trying to enjoy being single. With so much relationship spam, it even catches the eye of men committed to the bachelor lifestyle.
But don’t give it up just yet. Being single is always appreciated after it’s gone (just ask anyone in a long-term relationship), but it doesn’t have to be this way for you. When you do get in a relationship you want it to be out of choice, not peer pressure. So, let’s get into the art of being single so you can master it before you meet that someone special.
1. Focus on yourself and less on what others are doing
If we told you to focus on yourself 10 years ago, it would’ve been so much easier. You wouldn’t even be aware of what anyone else was doing. The best part? You wouldn’t even be tempted to find out. But with social media being a huge part of our daily lives, you can now find out what anyone’s up to from your childhood crush to your barber.
The temptation to tap into someone else’s life is real when it’s quite literally at your fingertips and only a click away. But this doesn’t mean you should give in to it.
People only put their best selves forward on social media, similar to a dating app (that you most definitely should not be on when embracing single life). They only show the highs and not what it took to get there. The lows aren’t picture perfect and have no place on Instagram.
If you wouldn’t post a picture of yourself mid mental break down head first in a tub of ice cream, (or whatever equally messy situation you find yourself in to wallow), why would anyone else?
When we’re in a relationship, we’re subconsciously factoring in our partner into everything we do and how it would affect them. You’re not stalking them on social media (we hope), but they cross your mind just the same.
Remember that thing your ex hated? Do it. Do it 10 times. Or that thing your friend in a relationship is forbidden to do? Do it for them. Being single is a good opportunity to focus on yourself and fulfill your needs, so don’t waste it by thinking about what others are doing. You can’t possibly live your best life if you’re focused on someone else’s.
2. Fall in love with yourself
Self-love is the new #relationshipgoals. Before you go searching for love outside of yourself, you should learn to love yourself first. Relationships come and go, but the one you have with yourself lasts a lifetime. We all have so much love to give, but amazing things happen when you choose to give it to yourself. The possibilities are endless.
Self-love isn’t loving everything about yourself. No one’s perfect. It’s about recognizing you have flaws and still deciding you’re worthy of love. It’s sticking up for yourself and saying no when you deserve better. It’s taking care of yourself first and foremost. It’s doing what makes you happy, regardless of what it looks like to anyone else. Basically, it’s doing anything you’d do for someone you love, but for yourself.
When you love yourself, you become complete on your own. You see a partner as an extra piece, a great addition, but you know you won’t fall apart without them. This will lead to healthier relationships as you won’t rely on them entirely for your happiness, which isn’t fair on them or on you. When you give someone complete control over your happiness, you also give them the power to take it away.
Loving yourself also sets the boundaries and expectations that you want others to meet. If you treat yourself with the utmost respect and love, others will follow. This goes for romantic relationships and friendships. We attract what we are after all. If you want better, be better.
3. Figure out what you want in life
Many people tend to lose themselves when in a relationship. You become a team. “I want” becomes “we want” and “that’s better for me” becomes “that’s better for us.” And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing if you want the same things in life.
But how many of us have forgotten about the dreams we had before the relationship? Relationships involve compromise, but sometimes we get so caught up in it all that we don’t realize how far we’ve come from what we wanted just to keep our other half in our lives.
But it’s not the relationship at fault. It’s our own. If you take the time when you’re single to figure out what you truly want in life, you’re less likely to give it up. Even for love. Entering a relationship without knowing what you want to do with your life is like signing your soul away.
You’ll be easily influenced by what the other person wants. Figuring out what your life goals are is the first step to achieving them.
4. Hang out with other singletons
If you spend most of your time with people in relationships or couples, you’ll only ever see the cons of being single. Especially with all the PDA going on.
Ever felt left out by friends in relationships and not been included in plans because it’s a “couples thing?” It makes you feel bad for being single and no one wants to feel this way. But what you do about it is up to you. We suggest going to do a “singles thing” and making them wish they were single too.
People in relationships lead different lives, they have different priorities to you. This isn’t to say cut them off entirely, but hanging out more with fellow singles will help you to see the pros. They don’t have to be home at 11 PM, they’re better wingmen (but they do come with a chance of stealing your crush), and they definitely won’t ask you for relationship advice.
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5. Build meaningful friendships
Being single is basically a free ticket to hang out with the lads without worrying about your phone blowing up. We always talk about the importance of improving our relationships, but what about our friendships? You could spend seven years in a relationship with someone for it to come crashing down overnight.
They’ve stood by your side for what feels like a lifetime. But when all is said and done, they’re nowhere to be seen. They vanish out of thin air and become a distant memory. And who is it that shows up for you to pick up the pieces? Your friends – who definitely don’t get enough credit for it.
You should treat friendships like you treat relationships. If you don’t put in the work, they fade out. Take the time to get to know them on a deeper level. Plan fun adventures. Show them how much they mean to you. When you’re in a relationship, you have to balance your partner and your friends. But when you’re single, all you have to think about are your friends. Take advantage of it.
Strong friendships can even lengthen your lifespan, so if you’re wanting to stick around as long as possible and have a good time, hit up your friends for a night out and come back at dawn. Or next weekend.
6. Get comfortable with being alone
Being alone doesn’t have to mean lonely. It only means lonely when someone isn’t comfortable with being alone (sorry if this is you. Truth hurts). But we must admit, it’s easier to feel lonely these days when you’re at home scrolling through Instagram and see everyone out and about.
Especially if you have major FOMO. But the reality is, you can’t possibly be with someone 24/7. So would you rather be that guy frantically flicking through his contacts in a panic trying to find anyone to hang out with or that guy who keeps his cool and can afford to be selective of who he hangs out with? We’re pretty sure it’s the latter.
If being alone makes you uncomfortable, you’ll be more accepting of letting people into your life that don’t deserve to be there. It’ll drive you into the wrong types of friendships and relationships out of fear.
Being at ease in your own company won’t allow you to settle for less than you deserve. And when you do find someone you’d like to settle down with, you’ll be able to accept and respect their boundaries. No woman wants to be followed around by a man child.
7. Become the best version of yourself
After spending time alone with your own thoughts and feelings, you’ve probably realized things about yourself that you’re not a huge fan of (the real reason why you had an obsession with avoiding your own company being one of them).
There’s nothing worse than finding the love of your life and realizing you’ve still not shaken your fear of commitment. Or lose them in the heat of the moment thanks to your short fuse. Whatever it may be, now is the time to fix it. We all have baggage, but you don’t want to drown them in it.
Get a therapist or hop on Google (ah, to be Google and know all the weird and wonderful things people search), but don’t forget to clear your search history when that first date does come. You know, just in case you get lucky.
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The 10 Best Things To Do in Mexico City
Years ago, everyone raved about Mexico for its beachside resorts. Yes, the Mexican coasts are beautiful, but city life appeals to many as well. As times and mentalities have changed, globetrotters now find themselves hitting up must-see destinations like San Miguel De Allende, Guadalajara, and of course, Mexico City.
Before the pandemic started, Mexico City had already been gaining traction with visitors from around the world. Over the past decade, more and more people have decided to see what’s going on south of the border.
As news spread about all that the city has to offer, it found itself (once again) an international travel destination. The pandemic, however, has put this on pause to a large extent. Many American travelers are back at it these days, and the first destination on their list is Mexico City.
Of course, traveling these days stirs up different feelings for everybody. Pandemic, or not, Mexico has a lot to offer as a travel destination. If there in the near future, it will be important to follow local safety regulations and ensure places are open for business before heading out.
The vibe in DF (dey EFF-eh, as the locals call it) changes based on the neighborhood. From the historical Zocalo and edgy streets of Roma to the tranquility of Polanco and the cafe culture of Condessa, the metropolis truly has something for men of any style. We asked locals for ideas and were clued into these top 10 stops for your next trip to Mexico City.
1. Salute the sunset in style at the Salón Ríos near the Monumento a la Independencia
Within Mexico, a major symbol of both Mexico City and the country itself is the Angel de la Independencia. It’s a must-have photo opportunity as it sits on one of the most important throughways in town, Av. Paseo de la Reforma.
The Angel was constructed in 1910 to celebrate the country’s centennial since the start of the war that led to Mexico’s independence. After selfie-time, you can enjoy a swanky drink at Salón Ríos. Order the flan, and wash it down with a mezcal.
For bonus points, put this plan into action around sunset on your first night in DF. Be prepared, however, for the magic of the city to consume you.
2. Take Notes at the Museo Nacional de Antropologia
Visiting a museum is a luxury that is lost on some people. Those who would rather be doing anything else than learning are reminded that a little cultural education is a good thing now and again, and that’s what the Museo Nacional de Antropologia is all about. You can’t go to Mexico City without expecting to take in some history, too.
Near the famed Bosque de Chapultepec (the heart of the city in many regards), the museum puts Mexican, Mayan, Aztec, and other Mesoamerican cultures right at your fingertips. History buffs, art lovers, and photographers are sure to enjoy eyeing the intriguing artifacts.
TripAdvisor fans note that although some online sources list the museum as temporarily closed, they have been able to enter by buying a ticket at the door. Double-check the current status of the museum and its operating hours before heading out. After your visit to the museum, take a nice walk around the park and enjoy its hidden gems.
3. Panoramic pics at the Palacio de Bellas Artes and the Torre Latino
The Palacio de Bellas Artes and the Torre Latino are icons in their own right in Mexico City. If you’re into exploring the city by public transit, head to metro Bellas Artes. One of the most remarkable metro stations in town takes travelers to the streets of Paris with the traditional art nouveau facade.
From there, scope out the Palacio. Inside, the marble interiors show off the city’s rich cultural roots. Meanwhile, murals and a small cafe await those who are hoping for a pitstop. Some weekends, the museum sets up outdoor spaces so passersby can catch an opera show, literally “on the house” thanks to a large projection screen set-up on the side of the building.
Across the street, the Torre Latino stretches over one of the city’s most frequented shopping districts. Catch a glimpse of all the action, and take advantage of a once-in-a-lifetime photo opportunity by taking it to the next level. Floor 44 offers spectacular panoramic views.
On the way up, impress your travel companions with a little trivia: The Torre Latino was the tallest building in Latin American at the time of its construction in 1956.
4. Practice your Spanish at Quintonil
Mexico City has gained international notoriety as one of the world’s most esteemed food capitals. Netflix makes documentaries about its food, and if that isn’t a testament to its delicious, spicy flavors, we don’t know what is.
And believe this, there’s no better time to dust off that old Spanish than when ordering food at a restaurant in Mexico. Waiters are usually friendly and happy to help you along, even if it’s a struggle.
In Polanco, Mexico City’s elite wine and dine on the regular. Where are they heading? Beyond the old standbys, locals recommend Quintonil. Established in 2012, the restaurant’s concept specifically accentuates traditional Mexican flavors.
The name refers to a herb commonly used in Mexican plates. The in-the-know local’s comment that the dishes are always fresh and tantalizing thanks to Chef Jorge Vallej’s local produce-based menu. In recent years the restaurant maintained its fame by landing exclusive spots on the World’s 50 Best Restaurant list as well high rankings in Latin American Restaurant categories.
5. Take in a private concert on a Xochimilco Cruise
On the outskirts of town, there’s a neighborhood with a waterway – Xochimilco. Here, something mesmerizing happens as the maze-like roadways yield to a dock filled with festive and colorful barges called trajineras. The jetsetter seems to enter another realm.
A boat ride in Xochimilco is exactly what you make of it. The ride can become serene and romantic, fiesta and alcohol-fueled, or a family-rated event. The vibe is up to you.
Think gondolas but with Mexican design elements. The park offers canals where the boats float lazily through natural greenery. Along the way, vendors float up peddling drinks, food, souvenirs, artwork, and music. You can book your own private concert right on the water.
The music is authentically Mexican, so be prepared for samples that touch on marimba, ranchero, or other traditional sounds. Some of the gondoliers even tell ghost stories if you’re interested (but they’ll most likely be in Spanish). Of course, this activity is subject to availability. Book a tour knowing what’s to be expected at the time of your trip.
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6. Explore the artsy side of the city with a tour of the Museo Frida Kahlo
In Coyoacan, there are two bucket list items not to be overlooked. The first is eating quesadillas in one of the local stands at the market or the plaza. There are vegan options on the menu, too, which makes the trip especially unique.
In Mexico City, by the way, the locals do not put cheese on a quesadilla unless it’s specifically stated. If you’re feeling cheesy, be sure to practice saying “con queso, por favor” when you order.
The second destination in Coyoacan is the Frida Kahlo Musuem. The house the painter once shared with Diego Rivera stands as a shrine to the creative energy she brought not only to DF but to the world.
The pros know that buying tickets online is highly recommended as the wait to buy a ticket in person often wraps around the block. Even then, for some, the visit to the Casa Azul is still worth it!
7. Sit back with a good book at the Biblioteca Vasconcelos
If you’ve ever wondered what a spaceship library might look like, la Biblioteca Vasconcelos comes pretty close. Architecturally, the building has an interesting story to tell. Opened in 2006, it was soon closed due to safety concerns regarding the construction. Millions of dollars were poured into the repair so that the library remains standing, now safely, for all to enjoy.
This library’s got it all – breathtaking architecture, urban appeal, and a robust English selection. It’s a great place to relax when the heat makes wandering the streets a little tiring. In a world where we’ve got the whole internet on our mobile devices, it still feels good to stop and read a physical book once in a while.
8. Sip on Sangria at Cafetería El Péndulo en la Zona Rosa
Mexico has colonial ties to the Spanish, and the culture shows up throughout the city. If you’re in the mood to explore Mexico-Spain fusion experiences, you might try the literary haunt famous for its piano bar and sangria.
El Pendulo now has a few locations across town, but the most well-known finds itself on the backstreets of Zona Rosa, Mexico City’s LGBT+ community where the nightlife is generally vibrant and all sorts of people are open to having a good time.
Beyond the clubs, big and small, tranquil options captivate locals and tourists alike. Sipping on Sangria, enjoying a cabaret show, and hanging out around the city can make for an exciting but low-key evening affair.
9. Get some fresh air with a trip to Teotihuacán
Teotihuacán is pretty far from the city itself, but not so much that it didn’t make the cut. It’s about an hour or two away (the city is famous for its traffic, too). The mini-road trip sends travelers to the foot of the pre-Columbian ruins. In fact, it’s one of the most visited sites in all of Mexico.
It’s a history lesson and a chance to catch some fresh air all in one. The pyramids were constructed between the first and seventh centuries AD. In fact, it’s believed to be one of the first (and biggest) cities built in North America. As the years went by, local people called the area Teotihuacán, which in Nahuatl, translates to “where the Gods were created.”
Beyond the cultural significance, the picture potential is huge. These are the types of shots that make people react! Your followers will be in your DMs asking for Mexico City travel tips.
10. Shop and stop for a drink in San Angel
Mexico City’s shopping is like no other. There are plenty of centros comerciales to go around, yet the local neighborhood markets and boutiques often have their own one-of-a-kind style options. Self-proclaimed shopaholics will feel right at home. As they say, “mi casa es su casa.” The city’s south side offers a lot to those looking to pick up some new goods while in Mexico.
In San Angel, BAZAAR SABADO is the place to check out for furniture, jewelry, and wear. According to the store’s website, the name of the game here is “creativity, knowledge, and tradition.” It’s the perfect place to snag a molcajete (mortar and pestle), a special tool used to make salsas and guacamoles.
Later, expand on the authentic Mexican experience with a stop at the elegant and airy San Angel Inn.
Make a reservation online for breakfast on the Veranda. Monday through Friday, they’re open from 7:00 AM to 12:00 PM, on weekends from 8:00 PM to 12:30 PM.
This might be the perfect “last stop” before heading back to the airport on your final day, especially if you’ve got a later afternoon flight. Plenty of time to eat and make it to the gate before takeoff.
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Japanese Billionaire Commissions Hermès x Rolls-Royce Phantom
Two of the world’s biggest luxury brands have come together for a one-off creation. French fashion house Hermès has teamed with Rolls-Royce for a bespoke Phantom Orbie. Commissioned by Japanese fashion mogul Yusaku Maezawa, this one-of-a-kind Phantom is inspired by Maezawa’s private jet, ancient Japanese ceramics, and Hermès illustrious history.
Based on the Phantom VIII, Hermès and Rolls-Royce collaborated on turning this automobile into a luxurious people mover sure to turn heads. The model has a two-tone green and cream colorway inspired by the glazes of antique Oribe ware. The exterior features an “MZ Oribe Green” color scheme that the British automobile maker has offered Maezawa to use for his private jet if he wishes.
The interior finds the two-tone theme coming to fruition, with Seashell White accents contrasting with Hermès Enea Green leather. Hermès piping is featured on the headrests and rear calf supports while the lambswool floor mats and accents add an extra touch of elegance. The speaker frets, doors, rear consoles, and picnic table all have wood elements with a perforated open-pore Royal Walnut veneer. Another never seen before addition is the Hermès “Toile H” canvas that covers the door armrests, center and rear console accents, and headliner.
The Phantom Orbie also has a champagne cooler, a decanter storage compartment, and unique artwork featured on the dash. Inspired by the Hermès house motif, the hand-painted artwork celebrates the work of French artist and illustrator Pierre Péron (1905–1988), the man behind many of Hermès’ iconic scarves.
This is one hell of a car, something Michael Bryden, Lead Designer of Rolls-Royce Bespoke Collective agrees with.
“Phantom Oribe is a fusion of East and West, ancient and modern, serenity and exhilaration. It is always a pleasure when a client brings us a bold, clear, and imaginative vision. There is a great thrill in seeing it realized so perfectly.”
It’s not known how much this luxury Rolls will have set Maezawa back, but considering he’s a billionaire, I’m sure money is no option. Find out more about this incredible creation at Rolls-Royce’s official website.
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