17 Signs Your First Date Is Going Well
If you hate the idea of waiting to find out whether you’ve had a good first date or not, you’ve come to the right place for some undeniable signs. The “will they or won’t they” message you back afterward can be tedious. So, wouldn’t it be nice to skip this stage altogether and know whether you can expect a text back, or even better, know that there’s a very good chance that they’ll beat you to it?
To help you out we’ve come up with 17 signs that suggest she’s just as into you as you are her.
1. They Get Their Flirt On
Flirting is basically a subtle way of saying “I’m sexually attracted to you.” When we fancy someone, flirting is second nature. Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. If you felt like your date was hitting on you, rest assured that you’re on a successful first date.
2. You’re Both Laughing
At the same things, of course. A shared sense of humor is a pretty good sign that things are going well. If only one person is laughing throughout the date, you probably have different ideas of what’s funny. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t funny as they could be hilarious to someone else, but if that person isn’t you, they’re not your person.
Think back to a date you had where neither of you made each other laugh (talk about a boring first date), did you ever see them again? If you’re already boring each other on the first date, there isn’t much hope for a future.
3. They Ask Deeper Questions To Get To Know You More
Are they asking questions that go deeper than what you do for a living? Asking what you do from 9-5 every day is a typical question you ask anyone that you’re meeting for the first time. It’s almost rude not to ask someone because of how common it is. You could be getting to know a potential friend or making small talk with someone standing at the bus stop with you because basic questions like this hold no romantic connection.
The questions your date is asking you give you an insight into whether they’re interested in you romantically or not. If they’re asking things such as “why did your last relationship end?” “what do you look for in a partner,” or “are you open to the idea of a serious relationship?” it indicates that they’ve thought about you in a romantic sense because these are compatibility questions.
They’re trying to understand whether you’re a match or not. If your date goes beyond the generic questions that you can ask just about anyone, there might be a second date on the cards (provided they like your answers.)
4. You Have Things in Common
While opposites do attract, you do have to share some common ground. Consider what’s important to you before you go on the first date so you can ask whether it’s a priority to them as well. Are they big on family? Do they prefer early mornings or late nights? Do they want children? If your answers match, you’re in for a good first date!
5. They’ve Already Asked To See You Again
If your date has already said they’d like to see you again before the date is over, you can bet your date is going well! They’re having such a good time with you that they can’t stand the thought of not seeing you again. Second dates made on the first date have a higher follow-through rate, so their best chance at seeing you again is to arrange another date there and then.
6. You Can’t Ignore the Sexual Chemistry Between You Both
Sexual chemistry usually comes down to body language. Are they leaning in closer, using any excuse to touch you, or stare into your eyes and smile without breaking eye contact longer than usual? If you’re both feeling the hots for each other, a second date shouldn’t be too far off.
7. There’s Talk of Future Plans Together
Not anything majorly serious like marriage and babies, but the mention of activities that you’d both like to do together in the near future. Maybe you both want to try a culinary class or this new bar in your local neighborhood. Talk of future plans is a very positive sign as you can both imagine being part of each other’s lives past the first date.
8. It Lasts Longer Than expected
Many people actually measure the success of a date on how long it lasts, which makes sense since why would you stay longer than you have to on a bad date? Now, it doesn’t mean your date has to last nine hours for it to be successful (some of us do have other places to be), but if it lasts longer than you expected for the activity you’ve chosen, it’s a good sign your date is going well.
Typically, going for coffee takes a couple of hours. If you’re there all afternoon, they order another coffee, or they suggest more activities to do on the date, you’re doing something right. If you started at a coffee shop which turns into dinner then drinks, it’s safe to assume that they’re enjoying themselves if the coffee wasn’t enough time with you for them. If they weren’t, they’d shot it like an expresso and be on their way.
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9. You Feel Like You Can Be Yourself Around Them
Does your date make you feel super comfortable and at ease to be yourself? Do you find yourself sharing things with them that you only talk to close friends and family about? Are you able to say whatever is on your mind without the fear of judgment? If you can be yourself around them from the get-go, you’re most likely in for more than just a first date.
10. They’re Respectful to Everyone You meet During the Date
How someone speaks to others they don’t care to make a good impression on says a lot about their character. If they go out of their way to be rude or disrespectful to the waiter or bad mouth the couple sat at the next table to you earlier, they may not be a very nice person and give you a sneak peek into how they may treat you when you’re past the trying to impress each other stage.
11. Think About How You Feel During the Date
Chances are if you feel super positive about your first date, they’ll probably be feeling the same way as you tend to bounce off one another. If your date has shut themselves off and makes it hard for you to get to know them, they seem distracted, and you’re the only one talking, you’re going to pick up on this negative energy. However, if it’s going well, you should be able to pick up on this as well.
12. You’ve Exchanged Numbers
It’s quite common to exchange your social media on a first date, people are naturally nosey and you can tell a lot from someone’s Instagram. It’s like a visual diary of what they like to get up to in their spare time and unfollowing them is just as easy as following them in the first place.
But if they ask to exchange numbers, it’s an indication that they at least plan on seeing you again (whether it happens or not is another story.) Texting or calling someone is more personal than sliding into their DM’s and gives you direct access to them. Anyone can find and message your date on Instagram, but only those who they want to speak to will have their number. Plus, it’s more annoying to block someone on your phone than unfollow them.
13. They Share Personal Details With You
We don’t tell a complete stranger that we never want to see again all about our personal life. If your date feels comfortable enough to share intimate parts of their life, they feel safe and secure in your company – two vital foundations for a great first date.
Now, you don’t have to get all up and personal as well, but doing so will give you the opportunity to form a deeper connection. If you stick to surface-level talk all night, your date may feel like you have your guard up or you’re not interested in getting to know them. Either way, this could cause them to pull away from you.
14. They Don’t Mention Their Ex
Bringing up an ex on a first date usually means they’re not over them and ready for a relationship with someone new. Although, just because they didn’t mention them doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about them, but if they brought them up, it’s almost guaranteed – hello red flag!
If your conversation stayed clear of their ex, it’s a good sign that your date is heading in the right direction.
15. They Give You a Compliment
Now, while you probably jumped straight to compliments on your appearance, it doesn’t have to be. While it’s nice to be told that you’re handsome or that the shirt you’re wearing really brings out your eyes, the compliment doesn’t have to be related to your physical features.
In fact, it actually means more if it’s about your character as it means they’ve taken the time to look past your pretty face. “I really like the way you look at the world” or “I feel so comfortable around you” are compliments that’ll stick with you.
16. You Feel Their Presence
When we’re having a bad time on a first date, giving in to distractions is easy, whether it’s getting out our phone, having a stare-off with someone else in the restaurant, or fiddling with the cutlery. If you feel like there’s nowhere else your date would rather be than with you at this moment in time, your date is a success because you’ve managed to keep a complete stranger interested for a night, regardless of whether you see each other again. Signs to look out for are direct eye contact, engaging responses, mirrored body language, and non-fidgety, restless behavior.
17. They Straight Up Tell You That They’re Having a Good Time
Some people are oversharers and won’t leave you guessing as to whether the first date is going well. If they tell you that it’s going well, believe them! Not only will you be able to relax knowing she is keen, but you can begin to plan your next date before the first has finished.
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