The 25 Best Sex Tips for Men To Keep Your Partner Satisfied
Everybody likes to think of themselves as some sort of sex god, but that usually isn’t the case. While you are no doubt putting in the work, sometimes it just doesn’t go the way you planned. Now, this could be for a variety of reasons. Maybe your partner isn’t really in the mood or both of you begin to lose interest midway through. Or maybe you have had a bad day and aren’t up to your usual standard. If this is the case, you might need some help to get the spark back in the bedroom. We are here to help with these sex tips for men that are sure to keep your partner happy.
These tips cover everything from the actual act of sex to ways of showing intimacy and other things you can do outside the bedroom to help with your performance. You might think it is all about fucking, but there are many other things you can do that will increase your sexual prowess. Good sex will not only keep your partner happy but is good for your health, both mentally and physically.
So to help you on your journey of sexual improvement, here are the 20 best sex tips for men to keep their partner wanting more.
The 25 Best Sex Tips for Men To Keep Your Partner Happy
1. Talk About Sex
“Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad.” It is hard to disagree with these wise words from 90s R&B legends Salt-N-Pepa. There is no better way to discover what your partner wants from sex than talking to them about it. Find out what it is that makes them hot and bothered while also expressing your desires, wants, and needs. Communication is the first step towards any healthy relationship and is the only way you will know what your partner wants.
2. Foreplay Is Not Optional
Unless you find yourself having a quickie, foreplay is a must when it comes to sex. Foreplay can include a variety of different sex acts. It isn’t just cunnilingus or masturbating your partner. Foreplay can be everything from kissing your partner’s neck to massaging her body. It is all the fun things you do before actually getting around to the sex.
“Foreplay contributes greatly to stronger orgasms and improved sex,” Matthew N. Simmons, MD, Ph.D., of the Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland told Everyday Health. “Gearing up your autonomic nervous system will increase sensitivity, excitement, and strength of orgasm. Your patience and attentiveness will pay dividends.”
3. Don’t Just Use Your Penis
Research shows women are more likely to orgasm when stimulated in a variety of ways besides vaginal penetration. So if you are expecting her to get off but just sliding it in, you are in for a rude surprise. Use your hands, your mouth, and any other body part that turns her on. Pay attention to what she wants and try other sex acts. Expand your sexual repertoire and you will reap the rewards.
4. Use Your Mouth
Going down below is a must. Men who don’t perform cunnilingus are not going to win any awards for best sex anytime soon. This is a very intimate act that if done correctly, will have your lady friend screaming in ecstasy. When you go down on a woman, be sure to take your time. Pay attention to the entire area, including the vulva and labia. Then focus in on the clitoris. Trust us, your partner will be thanking you in spades.
5. Let Her Take the Lead
Men often like to be the dominant ones in the bedroom, but sometimes it can be fun to let your partner take the lead. This changes the dynamic in the bedroom and is a bit of a role reversal. This can be empowering for her and may open a whole new sexual side you both haven’t experienced before. You might even find out you like being submissive.
“Don’t be afraid to let your mate lead,” Joyce Morley, EdD, a licensed counselor told Everyday Health. “Allow your mate to initiate sexual pleasure on occasions, as well as taking the top position.” Give her a taste of the power that comes with being dominant and see where it goes.
6. Lube Can Be Very Handy
Lubricant can be super handy during sex. There are times when she might need a little bit of help to get wet downstairs. This doesn’t mean she isn’t fully engaged in your lovemaking. There could be other reasons, such as stress or fatigue, that are impacting her getting physically aroused when she is mentally and emotionally ready to go. Lube is also a must if you are into anal play and can also be a fun addition to the bedroom if you choose a flavored variety. There is no shame in using lube in the bedroom.
7. Get Out of the Bedroom
Most of us think we do our best work in the bedroom, and maybe that’s the problem? It can get a little stale always having sex in the same spot, so mix it up. Roll around on the floor. Get up close and personal in the shower. Take things into the living room or the kitchen (although be sure to wipe down any surfaces after). Having sex in a different place other than your bed adds excitement to your lovemaking and can increase your potential for orgasm. If you are really turned on, maybe take things outside and see where that leads.
8. Change Your Routine
For many couples, particularly those that have been in relationships for many years, it is easy to get stuck in a routine. You might have a certain night once a week where you have sex before bed. Boring. This is not going to liven up your sex life or make it any more enjoyable. It might be time to do away with your routine and start being more spontaneous. Wake up a little earlier than usual and roll around in the hay. Try fucking in the shower. Organize a date night where you dress up and head out for a fancy meal before heading home and getting it on. There are so many things you can do to change up your sex routine.
This also extends to the actual sex. Don’t just kiss a bit and slip it in missionary like normal. Extend the foreplay and try some new things. Pull out some sex positions from your heyday and see what clicks. You and your partner have to be the ones to mix things up, and if you take the initiative, she is sure to follow.
9. Eat Healthily
You might wonder what this has to do with sex, but eating a balanced diet not only improves your libido but also means there is less chance of suffering erectile dysfunction. While eating your fair share of fruit and vegetables is a must, there is also a large range of other foods that are great for improving your performance. Ground flax seeds, salmon, apples, oysters, and beets are just some of the foods that can increase your libido and turn you into a world-class sex machine (maybe).
10. Sex Toys Are Your Friend
Many men feel like their masculinity is at risk when their partner talks about using sex toys, but this is far from the truth. Many women need more stimulation than just your penis, and the addition of sex toys can help her achieve climax. Don’t take it as a shot at your manhood, rather as an accompaniment to help your partner enjoy the sex even more. Also remember that there are many sex toys aimed at men these days. You might just find something that tickles your fancy in more ways than one.
11. Experiment With Edging
If you are unfamiliar with this technique, edging is when you almost bring yourself to climax. You train yourself not to ejaculate while masturbating. The idea is that you will be able to hold off from climaxing, meaning you can last longer during sex. Practice this when masturbating and see if you can delay your orgasm. Many couples also bring this into the bedroom to make the sex last longer, with your partner purposely stopping you from cumming when you are almost there.
12. Masturbate Together
Everybody masturbates. No matter what people say, they are doing it. So why not give it a crack with your partner? Not only is it hot watching your partner get herself off, but you might pick up a few tips on what makes her cum. Watch the way she moves her hands and what parts of her vagina she focuses on.
13. Try Morning Sex
You might be half-asleep to begin with, but morning sex is a great way to get the body up and running. It is similar to a mini workout that will have you fighting fit for the day. For many couples, especially those with kids, finding the time to have sex can be a nightmare. After working all day and then coming home to the kids, by the time you are ready for bed you are most likely exhausted. So give morning sex a try. It doesn’t have to be in the bed either. Try having a quickie in the shower. At least you can kill two birds with one stone.
14. Enjoy the Quickie
Speaking of the quickie, engage in them more often. While sex is always better when you can focus on your partner’s body, sometimes you just don’t have the time. Having a quickie is a great way to temper your libido and keep the sexual energy flowing. A quickie is like a greatest hits where you aim to get your partner off as fast as. possible.
“Go straight for what they like,” Jonathon Bennett, dating and relationship coach and owner of The Popular Man told Fatherly. “Discover what gets your partner extra hot and bothered and do it immediately. Don’t waste time! You can save the other stuff for when you’re not in a hurry.”
15. Set the Scene
Sometimes the ambiance can play a big role in getting your partner ready for some sexy times. Create a romantic space that includes light music, candles, a glass of wine, or whatever gets your partner in the mood. This can help relax her and stimulate her at the same time. Also, a little bit of romance never goes astray when it comes to getting your lady turned on.
16. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty is a very underrated sexual component that can turn mundane sex into something spectacular. Don’t be embarrassed about saying a few nasty things to your partner, as long as you don’t go over the top or talk about the panties her mother laid out for her. Dirty talk can be a sexy way to let your partner know what you want to do to them or a way to assert your dominance.
17. Watch Porn Together
You might not think it, but women love to watch porn almost as much as men. Men’s Health found that 75% of women are down to watch porn with their partner. This is a great way for you to both indulge in your sexual fantasies and find out what you both enjoy watching. Maybe you can incorporate some of what you watch into your own bedroom activities?
18. Take Your Time
There is no need to hurry. Sex isn’t a race. Take your time kissing and caressing your partner. Extend the foreplay longer than a few minutes of fingering. When you finally do get down and dirty, don’t pound away like an amateur. Make love to your girl softly and slowly. Emphasize the sensuality of the act and hold her gaze as you make love. Of course, there will be times when going hard and fast is warranted, but it never hurts to take things slowly now and then.
19. Role Play
Role play is another hot way to carry out your sexual fantasies. If your lady likes a man in uniform, dress up as a policeman or firefighter. Maybe you are the plumber coming over to fix the sink and things take a surprising turn? You can also get your lady to dress up in a costume that turns you on also. Nurse and maid outfits are very popular. Role play even extends to pretending to be somebody totally different. You could make up an entire character who seduces your partner into bed. Talk with your partner about what they like and go from there.
20. Switch Up Your Positions
As previously mentioned, it is very easy to slip into a routine when it comes to sex. One of the best ways to stop this is by switching up your positions. For many, missionary, cowgirl, and doggy style are the standards that get used over and over. There is no time like the present to change things and try out some new positions. There are hundreds of different situations you can find yourself in that provide pleasure for you both.
21. Introduce a Third Party
One way you can spice up your sex life is by introducing a third partner. Whether this is another man or a woman is up to you, but it can be a way for you to explore your fantasies. You can go further and introduce multiple partners, or maybe you decide an open relationship is an option. Just make sure you have talked all of this through with your partner and you are both consenting to bring in new partners to the relationship.
22. Discuss Your Fantasies and Act Them Out
We have touched on communication being important, and one part of this is letting your partner know your fantasies. If you don’t tell they won’t know. Discuss what you are keen to try and find out if your partner feels the same. You can even write out a list of all the sexual fantasies you want to try and see which sexual acts you both are willing to give a go. Then over the next few months, you can slowly work your way through them.
23. Sexual Hygiene Is Important
Even if you and your partner have been together for years, you need to keep your junk clean. Whether you manscape or not, be sure to wash your penis daily and make sure you aren’t all hot and sweaty before you have sex. Hygiene also extends to the rest of your body. Make sure your breath is minty fresh and you are wearing deodorant. There is nothing that turns a woman off more than a smelly man.
24. Exercise Regularly
Everyone knows exercising is not only good for your body but also your mind. If you look good you will feel good. Exercising is a great way to get yourself in shape and help increase your libido. While lifting can help you bulk up, cardio enables you to last longer without getting tired. Also include some stretching to keep you nice and limber.
25. Don’t Forget About Aftercare
Don’t just roll over and go to sleep once the deed is done. Aftercare is very important when it comes to sex and creating intimacy with your partner. Embrace your partner and have a cuddle. This demonstrates your love and affection for them and heightens the intimacy between you both.
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