Everything You Need To Know About Dating a Taller Woman
It is crazy to think that in 2022 there is still a discussion around men who date taller women. Height doesn’t matter people! While many will argue this point until they are blue in the face, a size differential between you and your partner means absolutely nothing. Dating a taller woman is not a problem.
If you need any further proof, look at some of these famous examples of couples with differing heights. Muscle man Jason Statham and model girlfriend Rosie Huntington-Whiteley. Aussie actor Nicole Kidman and her singer-songwriter husband Keith Urban. Comedia Kevin Hart and wife Eniko. Jonas brother Joe and Sansa Stark herself, Sophie Turner. These couples all feature taller women and shorter men and have no problems making it work.
The height difference was even brought up during press for the recently released Spider-Man: No Way Home film, with leads Tom Holland and Zendaya having to talk about how her being slightly taller isn’t a problem and the negative stereotypes surrounding tall women and short men.
But if you are feeling a little self-conscious, fear not, as dating a taller woman has a lot of perks. Here is a list of things you need to know about dating a taller woman and why it can be a hell of a lot of fun.
Give Her a Chance
First things first, give her a chance. If you automatically swipe left on someone’s profile because they are taller than you or meet someone in the real world and are put off by their height, it’s time to rethink your attitude towards dating. It is a played-out stereotype that should not even exist. If height is an issue, it shows the type of character you have and exhibits your insecurities and failings as a man.
Forget about it and give dating a taller woman a go. You might find you have more things in common with her than you do other women your height or who are shorter. Her being taller than you doesn’t have anything to do with her personality. It is all about connection and enjoying each other’s company. Sure, you need to be sexually attracted to someone, but a couple of inches difference in height should not be a factor. If she ends up being the one rejecting you, then that is her loss. You know your value.
Don’t Bring It Up
Don’t make a joke about the height difference the first time you meet. There is nothing more off-putting. This makes you look insecure and that is not something you want her thinking about you when you first connect. She will start to wonder what else you are insecure about and what other emotional issues you might have. It is also just not that funny. Plus, she has probably heard all those jokes before and doesn’t need a prospective date trying to make her laugh by making fun of her.
Treat her like you would any other person you are going on a date with. If someone was the same height as you would you make a joke about that or bring it up as soon as you see her? I doubt it. You don’t go up to a woman and ask what size her bra is, so you shouldn’t be asking how tall she is or talking about her height.
She is a normal human being who deserves your respect and to be treated that way. She will probably like you more for not asking and that could go a long way towards your date turning into something special.
Women love a confident man, so own being short. Show her you are happy with who you are and love yourself. Look at Danny Devito. You don’t see him acting like his height is a hindrance. He is out there getting it done making movies and being an all-around funny dude. If you embrace your shortness you will ooze confidence and she will pick up on this.
Owning your masculinity shows you aren’t worried about fulfilling gender roles or being the big, muscled hero she needs to protect her from the harsh realities of the world. If you are fine with being the short one in the relationship, it shows you have no problem smashing down gender stereotypes. Your date will see that you have no problem if she earns more than you or won’t be worried if she wants to work and you be a stay-at-home date.
Focus On Your Other Qualities
There is more to who you are than how tall or short you are. Be sure that she knows this. Highlight the other qualities that define your personality and the type of person you are. Don’t get caught up in your height. Talk about your family, where you have traveled, what films you are into, or what you look for in a relationship. Talk about anything but your size.
You want her to like you for who you are. If you come across as a good guy with similar interests who can make her laugh, she will forget about your height. Be present during your time together and give her your full attention. It won’t take long for her to fall for your personality, not your appearance.
Appreciate Her Height
This doesn’t mean you have to tell her repeatedly how you are fine with her being taller than you. Just be aware of how she acts around you and make sure she feels comfortable. She might be the one who is not used to dating a shorter man, so make her feel ok and that the size difference isn’t a problem for you. Treat her like you would anybody else you have dated. Encourage her to wear heels and let her know how sexy she looks when she does. Comment on how those jeans make her legs look amazing. Small comments like this can put her at ease and make her realize size isn’t a big issue.
Complimenting her height can also make her feel empowered. Tall women, like short men, can sometimes be insecure about the way they look. If you let her know you have no problems with her height and actually think it is hot, she will soon forget about it. Obviously, the first time you meet you don’t need to blurt out how sexy you find tall women, but the occasional compliment here and there won’t hurt your chances.
Don’t Try Any Tricks
You are who you are, so don’t go trying to make yourself look bigger. Lying about your height on a dating app is silly. Eventually, you will meet and she will discover your true height. Chances are the date might not last that long. If you think you can get away with it by wearing lifts in your shoes or trying to position yourself so you appear taller, she will notice. Women are not stupid.
This is why you need to embrace your height as talked about earlier. Leave the chunky shoes at home. Be happy and proud of who you are and don’t let a couple of inches get in the way of a loving relationship with your forever person.
Use What Your Momma Gave You
As stated above, wearing lifts or trying manufactured ways to make you look taller is not going to help. What you can do is use what you have. There are several ways you can enhance your appearance. These won’t necessarily make you look taller, but they help accentuate your own features so you look your best.
Stand up straight and don’t slouch. This is also great for your posture. If you have short hair, style it with a bit of extra volume. Wear clothes that fit your body type. Tailored are best. Solid colors are also a good way to go about this. These are just a few things you can do.
The Sex is Great
When it comes to the bedroom, there are a number of slight tweaks you might need to make when having sex. While you can perform pretty much every sex position you can think of, there are some that work much better when in a relationship with someone who is taller than you. Don’t let the size difference turn you off.
“Don’t feel you need to be perfectly aligned,” Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., resident sexologist at Astroglide told Cosmopolitan. “Get creative and enjoy the height differences to engage in a variety of sex acts—from using toys and oral sex, to hand jobs and mutual masturbation.”
Work the angles and try positions you might not normally have a go at with smaller women. Try using toys or other props that could help things go smoothly. Sometimes it is even easier having sex with a taller woman as your junk lines up perfectly with her downstairs area, meaning it can slip in and out with ease. There are dozens of articles on the internet where you can find the best sex positions when dating a taller woman. Just make sure you are both having fun and talking about what you like and don’t like.
There was also a study by The Journal of Sexual Medicine that found guys under 5’9″ have sex more often than those who are taller, so that’s a plus.
Don’t Fetishizer Her
While there are certainly some positives when it comes to having sex with a taller woman, be sure not to sexualize or fetishize her. There is nothing wrong if you are attracted to taller women, but don’t turn this into some sort of fetish. Taller women are sometimes associated with being a dominatrix or women who are into S&M because they are seen as being dominant. So don’t assume she is into these fetishes or that she wants to take part in them. Also, don’t try and pressure her into these types of roles.
Dating someone because you want them to fulfill your sexual fantasies is pretty disgusting. You should be with her because you love her for who she is and the type of person she is. If the sex is incredible, that’s a bonus. Treat her like a person and respect her as a woman.
Be Prepared for Jokes
It is inevitable that your mates will make a few jokes about your taller girlfriend. Guys will latch on to anything that can get a laugh. Just make sure they don’t cross the line. If they say anything really offensive, or you just don’t appreciate their jokes, let them know. If they are real friends they will take your feedback on board and stop messing with you.
But it is not just your friends. You may be out together and experience some negative comments. “Do you play basketball?” or “What is the air like up there?” are a couple of common things people say to tall people. The best thing to do to avoid any type of confrontation is to laugh these incidents off, or even better, ignore them. Sometimes this is not always the case, so if you do have to speak up, do so in a polite and non-confrontational way. The last thing you want to do is get into an argument with someone over the height difference between you and your lady.
…But Also Take the Piss Yourself
Instead of focusing on her height, make fun of your size. The best example of this is Kevin Hart. The comedian is three inches shorter than his wife, but that hasn’t been a problem in their relationship. He is always happy to make a joke at his expense, with his style of self-deprecating humor welcoming. It is much easier for you to be the one who gets laughed at, especially if your partner is self-conscious about her height. You don’t need to be cracking jokes all the time, but it can help lighten the mood or change the dynamic of an awkward interaction with other people.
Good Things Come In Small Packages
If you are fine with being the smaller one in the relationship but your partner is having second thoughts, just remind her of the old saying; “Good things come in small packages.” If she needs more convincing, this study found shorter men make better partners, which is pretty much all she needs to hear. But on a serious note, if she is the one struggling, be open with and honest with her in communicating why she shouldn’t worry and help her realize that it shouldn’t matter if you both love and care for each other. And let’s face it, if a few inches make that much of a difference, she probably isn’t the girl for you.
There are also several other fun things that you get from dating a taller woman. You get to be the small spoon, she can share your hoodies, and you will never lose her in a crowd. Of course, these aren’t major things you need to take into account when dating a taller woman. They are just some fun things you can enjoy. Remember, having a sense of humor is great in any relationship.
At the end of the day, it shouldn’t really matter what height your girlfriend is. Whether she is taller than you or shorter, or even the same size, this should not be a point of conjecture. You should be with someone for who they are on the inside and not their physical appearance. Of course, there has to be an attraction, but your height shouldn’t be a big factor in this. If it does cause issues then maybe the two of you are not really suited to be together. If that is the case, don’t waste your time with her and find someone who loves you for who you are. There is someone out there for you.
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