Top 15 Tips On How To Be a Confident Man in Your Relationship

Women love a confident man. It doesn’t matter whether you are her hot date for the evening or the guy who works in the gas station she always stops by. Confidence attracts women. If you know how to be a confident man in a relationship you are already halfway towards a long and loving partnership. If you don’t believe me, a study found self-confidence as one of the biggest turn-ons for women. You can’t argue with science.

Being confident shows you are happy with who you are. You are steadfast in your beliefs and make choices that are beneficial for your life moving forward. Being confident in a relationship is a big part of being a successful boyfriend and partner. Your confidence will rub off on your partner and she will feel like you and her can do anything together. You can take the world by the balls and conquer it as a couple.

Sadly not all men are filled with confidence in a relationship. Some may have never been confident in the first place, while others may have lost that initial spark of self-assurance that helped them win over their loved one at the beginning. It can be a tough time struggling with your confidence, as you will become more self-conscious and find yourself worrying about silly things concerning you personally along with things about your relationship.

There is no magic wave you can wand that will make you a confident man. You have to look within yourself and find your inner beauty and strength and then use that to take on the world in a positive manner. If you are grappling with this, there are several things you can do to help you become more of a confident man in your relationship.

1. Be Happy In Yourself

You can’t be confident if you don’t feel good about yourself and who you are. Are you happy with the person you are? If yes, then you are well on your way to being a confident fella. If you suffer from low self-esteem or are struggling with your identity and who you are, take a step back and reassess things. Feeling like this will not only impact you as an individual but also your relationship. No doubt your partner will be able to tell if you are struggling and if you don’t talk about things, this could lead to other problems in your relationship.

You might find you need to talk with a professional so you can understand why you feel low all the time or find it hard to talk when around others. Once you are confident within yourself, then you can demonstrate this to your partner with the way you act and how you treat her and your relationship.

2.  Be Approachable

This doesn’t just relate to the way you look, although that certainly helps. Your partner should feel like she can talk to you about anything. If you are low in confidence it will come across in the way you act and look around her. You probably won’t be smiling much and your demeanor will be poor. If she does try and talk to you, it is more than likely your answers will be short and possibly hurtful, and you won’t want to delve deep into the issues within your relationship and yourself.

So pick yourself up and act accordingly. Put that smile back on your dial and be more attentive in your relationship. Your partner will certainly notice the difference and feel more at ease talking to you about serious issues.

3. Communicate

Communication is sexy. Women love a man who says what he wants and feels. It is a sure-fire sign of confidence. As the basis for any relationship, it is also important that you feel empowered to talk about everything with your partner. You should be vulnerable and open to talking about your feelings and the relationship. Address any issues that arise or problems you have. Do so in a clear and calm way so your lady understands where you are coming from. She will be super grateful if she knows she can talk to you about anything, even things that might upset you or put a strain on your relationship.

While Ii is not always easy to talk to your partner when it comes to your relationship and expressing your needs and wants, as stated above, your partner will be grateful when you are open and honest. It will make your relationship that much more straightforward and enable a greater connection between you both. Everyone wins.

4. Be Vulnerable

One of the most alluring things about a confident man is their ability to be vulnerable. Showing that you are in touch with your feelings and willing to be open and honest about your relationship will have your lady telling her friends how amazing you are. Being able to talk about anything with your partner is paramount to a successful relationship. Not only does it mean you can work through any issues or problems that arise, but it will make your lady appreciate you more and foster a relationship built on trust, honesty, and respect.

5. Stay Cool

A confident man doesn’t crack under the pressure or get upset when things go wrong. This can help greatly in your relationship. If your partner knows that you won’t get flustered and will stay in control when your restaurant booking gets mixed up or can trust that you won’t throw a hissy fit when your flight gets canceled, it will put her at ease. Being cool, calm, and collected means you can face any challenges in your relationship in a stable and focused manner. She will feel comfortable knowing if you get into an argument you won’t start screaming and yelling or worse, getting physical, something a confident man would never do. The two of you will be able to discuss any issues without things turning into World War III.

6. Consider Your Partner

When you need to voice something to your lover or bring up a subject that might cause a commotion, consider their feelings and how they will react. Being aware of the way your partner might take certain news allows you to come at the topic or problem in a way that won’t make them feel terrible or get them super angry. If you can emphasize with the way your partner might see things, it will allow you greater confidence to talk to them with ease and take into account their feelings. You will be more confident in your own voice and be able to get your point across without offending them.

7. Dress How You Like

In the current day and age where people are judged on their appearance, it can be very easy to lose your own identity to fit in with everyone else. What you like to wear might not be seen as cool, so to make sure you aren’t ridiculed by friends, you change your style or the way you look. You shouldn’t have to do this. A confident man will wear what he likes when he likes. If you feel good in what you are wearing, it will show in the way you act and people will pick up on your confidence. Obviously, I don’t suggest taking your date to a 5-star restaurant dressed in sweatpants, but find a way to exhibit your fashion flair in an acceptable manner.

8. Address Your Insecurities

You might think talking to your partner about your insecurities would be seen as a negative, but it is the total opposite. She will appreciate the fact that you are willing to talk about the things that worry you or the fears you have within your relationship and yourself. It might seem strange, but discussing your self-doubt issues actually makes you come across as confident. This shows your partner you are willing to talk about your faults and address them. It illustrates your desire to be a better man for yourself and your relationship. The first step to overcoming your insecurities is admitting them to your partner. The two of you can work together to help you get over your insecurities and you can do the same for her. It is a great way for you to bond and strengthen your relationship

9. Positive Body Language

The way you interact with your partner tells her a lot about how you feel about the relationship. If you are standoffish with your arms crossed or have a permanent scowl on your face, it doesn’t make you approachable. You should be relaxed and welcoming with the way you use your body. It is a big part of how to be a confident man in a relationship.

“If I had a penny for each time people talk about body language, I’d probably be a millionaire,” life coach Geetarsh Kaur told Bonobology. “It’s hashed out quite frequently, but it really is that important. Body language reflects your confidence very clearly. I would tell you to focus on your smile, posture, and eye contact. Your default expression shouldn’t be stony–you don’t have to smile like a model, but look approachable.”

Don’t adopt defensive body positions, but be open and free with your arms and legs. Be welcoming with your body and hold your partner’s gaze when chatting.

10. Don’t Be Controlling

Controlling behavior is not cool. It makes you look weak and insecure. While I have mentioned it is ok to be insecure, you need to talk about your issues so they don’t spiral out of control. If you have trust issues, the worst thing you can do is try and control your partner by demanding to know where she is at all times. Even worse is constantly bombarding her with texts when she is out to see who she is with and what they are doing. If you get jealous easily, scrolling through social media all night trying to find out what she is doing is a big no-no. This type of behavior will drive your partner away and could spell disaster for your relationship.

A confident man will give his partner the freedom to live their own life. There is nothing wrong with her doing her own thing without you. You should encourage this as it will benefit your relationship.

11. Be Proactive

Don’t sit around and wait for things to happen. Get out there and take what you want, within reason of course. Nothing gets a woman more excited than a proactive man. Someone who is willing to go after what he wants exudes confidence. There are many ways you can be proactive when in a relationship. It could be taking the initiative to start talking with your partner about the future. Discussing marriage and having kids. Or maybe you are looking to buy a house. Taking charge of this is a big responsibility and something your lover will be happy that you are helping with and taking point on.

Being proactive goes hand in hand with being decisive. Being able to make snap decisions shows you know what you want. This could be something small like deciding what to eat for dinner or what movie to watch on Netflix or something larger like what color couch you should get for the lounge or what hotel to book on your Europe trip.

Being proactive shows you aren’t afraid to take the reigns when it comes to important decisions and your partner knows she can rely on you to make the tough choices.

12. Keep Your Independence

While a relationship with someone you love and care for is what we all want, you also need to be able to live your own life. It is not healthy to spend every waking moment with the same person, although many couples do. You need to be able to have your own life outside of the relationship where you can hang with your friends or pursue other interests your girlfriend might not be so keen on.

Being independent shows you are confident in your relationship and have no fears about both of you doing your own thing. If your lady sees you are self-assured and happy with things, this will rub off on her and she won’t feel guilty about hanging with her friends or doing things without you. It creates a healthy relationship between you both. You can both do your own thing without worrying about each other or it impacting your relationship. This only makes things better between you and your partner.

13. Don’t Be Afraid To Talk Yourself Up

There is nothing wrong with talking the talk, as long as you walk the walk. Confident men are often more than happy to talk about how good they are, which is fine, as long as you follow through on your actions. If you tell your partner at the beginning of the relationship that you value communication and vulnerability, but then fail when it comes to opening up and talking about your feelings, you haven’t done anyone a favor. There is nothing wrong with talking about your strengths or things you think you excel at, as long as you can back these claims up.

It is also a fine line between being confident and arrogant. You can talk yourself up, but don’t go too far and make yourself out to be god’s greatest gift. Women will see through this, especially your partner.

14. Accept Affection

Be open to the love your partner is giving you, especially when it comes to compliments. It can often be hard to receive affection from others, be it a nice word about ourselves or a physical manifestation. You need to learn to take these gestures on board and appreciate the way your partner feels about you. Maybe you think you don’t deserve to be complimented because of your own self-doubt issues, but you have to understand your partner means what she says. Take affection as a positive and it will show you are confident within yourself and feel deserving of praise. Also, be sure to dish out affection to your partner on a regular basis. This way you will both be feeling good about each other and the life you are creating together.

15. Be Yourself

If you take anything away from this article, it is that being yourself is the best way to go about being confident in a relationship. It doesn’t matter what setting, whether you are at home with your partner or out with friends, being yourself shows who you truly are. If you embrace everything great about yourself and put that on display, you will ooze confidence and your partner will pick up on this. People who are assured of themselves know what they want and will more than likely get it. Your partner will love it if you can take charge, be it in the bedroom or with the finances, and she will respect you more.

While not always easy, being yourself and letting your partner see you for who you really are will do wonders for your relationship and boost your self-confidence.