Asking a Girl Out Over Text – Examples that Get Dates

In this article, we’re talking about something that might seem a bit wild to you traditionalists out there. And that something is – asking someone out over text! While this was once something that hugely frowned upon, it’s difficult to argue that the times are changing.

Texting is now seen as a much more acceptable form of communication, and it has now reached the level where it would not be so out of the ordinary to ask someone out on a date over text! This is exactly what we are going to help you with in this article.

Asking Someone Out – The Basics

Before we can get into asking someone out over text, it’s important to give a rundown on just asking someone out in general. While asking someone out might seem like a tricky, in which you have to drop the ask in just the right moment in just the right way, it’s often a lot simpler than you think!

At it’s most basic level, all you’re doing is asking someone if they’d like to spend some time with you to see if there’s a mutual connection there. That’s all it is. There shouldn’t be any games or tricks about it. It’s just a date.

So, try not to think about it or stress about it too much. At the end of the day, you’re really just asking the person because you think they are special, and you are hoping they think the same thing about you, or you are hoping that you could build things to that point eventually.

Keep this in mind as we go forward. It’s just a date, and it becomes a lot simpler if everyone is just honest with each other. So, let’s see how to ask a girl out over text.

Asking Out Over Text?

So on to the meat of our article – asking someone out over text. We get it, it can seem like a very tricky task, and it’s definitely not something that we would recommend in every situation.

Depending on who you are planning on asking, it might be more effective to ask them in person or even over the phone. But if you are intent on asking over text, then there are ways that might improve your chances of receiving the answer that you want.

How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text Message

So, let’s get into it. Here are our top tips for asking a girl out over text:

Remember – It’s Not Just About Asking Someone Out

Our first piece of advice might also be our most important. Think of the conversation as a whole, not just about asking someone out. People want to go on a date with you because they see you as someone who might be an interesting person to get to know, not because you asked them out in a creative way.

So think of the text conversation as a whole, don’t just think of it as a way to sneak in an invite for a date. Have a real conversation, have an interesting back and forth, and focus on actually getting to know the person you are talking to. If you can do that, then you both will know whether a date is the right way to move forward. It doesn’t have to be complicated!

Be Yourself

Our next advice might seem cliché but remember that clichés were often developed because they hold true! And that advice is to be yourself! Because at the end of the day, people accept a date because they want to get to know you, and if you haven’t been yourself, then how are they supposed to know whether they want to go out with you?

So be yourself, answer questions honestly, and don’t be afraid to be enthusiastic. There is an appeal to someone who is themselves, as it shows confidence, and it shows that you are secure in who you are. People are drawn to confidence, so it may actually increase your chances of getting the answer you want. Plus, if you’re yourself, then that means you’re being honest, and you don’t have to worry about upholding a persona that isn’t the real you!

Have a Great Conversation First

Building on our above advice, don’t simply focus on asking someone out. Instead, focus on simply having a conversation. Ask them things, tell them things, get to know the person you are talking to. You will find that this takes a lot of the pressure off.

You’re simply getting to know someone, and if that naturally progresses to the point where you ask them out, then so be it. But either way, you’ve built an actual foundation where you both know each other, and both know whether it’s someone you might want to go on a date with.

Know When to Ask

Of course, a conversation is great, and it’s definitely worthwhile to build some commonalities with someone before asking them out. But at the end of the day, this is still an article about asking someone out over text, so we still need to focus on the “ask” itself.

Truth be told, it is all about reading the situation, and sometimes reading the situation will help you understand when is the best time to ask.

An answer of “it depends” might not always be satisfying, but sometimes it is also the proper answer. There will never be an obvious indicator that it is the best time to ask someone out.

That is why we suggested having a conversation. It helps to build interest on both sides and helps people to know whether this is someone they want to go on a date with. This makes it a lot easier to read the situation and know when it is right to ask.

In general, if you are both having a fun, engaged conversation, and you can sense interest on both sides, then go for it! Ask respectfully whether they would like to do something in person sometime. Remember, it might not always be a “yes,” but that’s just life. Sometimes another cliché holds true, which is that “you’ll never know if you don’t ask.”

Talk About Her – Ask Questions

An easy way to make conversation in a text message is to simply ask questions! If there’s one thing about most people, it’s that they love to talk about themselves. So if you’re not a great conversationalist, simply ask people questions about themselves! You’d be surprised how much conversation can be generated with good questions. It can even be as simple as “how was your day?”.

Not only does this make for good conversation, but it shows the other person that you are interested. It shows that you are considerate and that it isn’t all about you.

Make Her Laugh

Being funny is a sure way to get anyone’s interest! If you’re a natural comedian, then why not show it off over text? Make jokes, be clever, even be sarcastic if the situation calls for it! The key is in reading the situation and knowing the difference between being charming or obnoxious.

Humor is great, but it shouldn’t be all that you contribute to a conversation. But if you can make her laugh, then that is a sure-fire way to show that you are a fun person! And generating that interest sure goes a long way towards getting that eventual date.

Tell a Story

If you’re in search of something to say, why not tell a story? Stories are a great way to drive conversation and a definite way to spark some interest. Just be sure that your story is interesting and engaging, and on topic with what you are talking about.

Also, try to keep it compact! At the end of the day, it’s all about reading the situation and knowing the best things to say. This is easier said than done, but if you have some well-received stories that you can rely on, then you might always have a way to keep a text message conversation engaging and fun!

Keep It Casual

Remember, this is texting that here, so keep it casual! We are talking about the conversation in general, but this might even apply to the actual “ask” as well. There is no need for such formalities in a conversation that is in itself not very formal. So instead of asking, “would you like to go on a date?” you could say something like, “would you like to hang out?” or “want to check out this new place?”.

Of course, the direction of the conversation will dictate just how formal you will need to be. But remember that keeping it casual will sometimes keep it more comfortable for everyone.

Find Out Her Interests and Ask to Do That

Another tip for asking someone out is what to actually ask them! After all, you’re not just asking them out in a broad sense; you have to make a concrete plan! Luckily, there’s a pretty easy solution to this one, and it all draws from that conversation.

Find out her interests and ask her to do something that is in line with that. If you know about her favorite food, find a great restaurant. If she’s a movie buff, ask her to a movie. You get the idea. It’s all about finding out about the person you are talking to and asking them about something they would enjoy and finding a good place to do just that.

Find a Cool New Place and Ask About It

Along the same lines, why not put a little research into the ask. Find that cool new place in town, or that really unique date idea, and ask about that. If you have a really fun date idea in mind, then it might help to generate that excitement when you finally ask them out!

Be creative and think outside the box. Not every date has to be dinner and her favorite movie after all. If the person you’re talking to seems like the type of person that would appreciate that level of creativity, then don’t be afraid to let your uniqueness show!

Just Ask

Sometimes there’s no use thinking about it any longer. Sometimes, you just have to ask. If you’ve been having a great time conversing with someone for a while, but are struggling to find that break in conversation that is the perfect time to ask, you might just be overthinking it! Sometimes you just gotta ask!

After all, if the person is truly interested, they don’t really care how, when, or what you ask them. They’ll just be eager to spend some time with you. So if you feel a real connection with someone, don’t overthink it!

If She Says, “No,” That’s Okay!

And of course, there’s the simple fact that not everyone you ask is going to be interested in going on a date with you. And that’s okay! Sometimes people just weren’t meant to connect on that level. After all, relationships are a two-way street. In fact, be happy they were honest with you from the outset. No one wants to be in a relationship where only one side feels an attraction.

Rejection is fine, and sometimes you can be proud that you were brave enough to ask!

Putting It All Together

In this article, our goal was to help you to ask someone out. And in reality, there are many ways to do that. But, as you can see from our list, it is all really just based on a good foundation of mutual interest.

Dating isn’t a complicated game where you have to pick the perfect time and the perfect way to do everything. It’s just a simple act of two people who think they might want to get to know each other getting together. That’s all it needs to be, and we hope you have understood that from this article.

At the end of the day, your best way to text someone is with honesty, directness, and with some fun conversation.